Stay home mom

Being a stay home mom comes with lots of responsibilities, I think there is even a hidden job description:) Unlike some people think, being a stay home is not easy...It may sound otherwise... It all depends what it means for you and what your expectations are. It is a decision to be made. Not an easy decision though.

Last couple of years, there are so many articles about this in newspapers, TV shows, magazines, books and many blogs on the net. More than ever, even celebrities step forward and put their opinions out there, which has a great amount of effect on regular people. Should other people's decisions/opinions, especially celebrities, mean too much to us? I do not think so...But surprisingly, in today's world, they are indeed...

I do not think there is much of a discussion to make about this. We all come from different backgrounds, our priorities are different, our culture and even our religion play a huge role in our own lives, so as our childhood. When we become parent ourselves, all these dynamics become highly influential on what we do and how we do it. I think the point is, to be happy with our decisions and own them. Most of importantly, to learn to not to judge people...

At my end, becoming a 'stay home' was my decision, it was very natural for me. Every single day, I feel very blessed and fortunate to be able to spend time with my children since the day they were born.  Some of my friends ask me, do not I want to go back to work? Are not you bored? How is that possible, you stopped working and staying at home all the time, and in Africa??? You have all these education and degree, do not you feel bad about yourself? These are also the questions I ask myself time to time (not too often though:)) But than I look around, and there I feel very content. Because I know, time goes very fast.  Become a mother comes with maturity and purity.  And to be able to spend quality time with my children, to be there for them especially first couple of years in their lives, are more fulfilling than any career out there for me.

And by the way, why do we think about 'work', in a strict definition? Does one have to leave home for office in the morning and come home in the evening, to be counted as a 'working mom'??? Is not taking care of own children is a job too, and a very serious and challenging one? Or working as a volunteer? Or working from home in own terms? Why do we have to live by all these strict rules, and judge others who choose not to?


Little note: I was going to write about something else, but somehow it became very natural. Just wanted to put my opinions out there:)

Stay with love,
Zeynep